Hello, dear one!
If you’ve been longing and ready to have a meaningful relationship, is it possible to meet your ideal companion in 90 days?
Sara did it!
Sara was in her late 30s and looked perfect on paper: She graduated from Stanford University and worked as a software engineer for a well-known tech company. She owned a townhome in a highly sought-after neighborhood.
She looked good in person too, with a beautifully toned body from years of yoga practice.
So what was her problem? She’d been in therapies for over six months and still had not met her soul mate.
Sara’s best friend from high school recommended a book, The Secret. But after reading and even watching the movie multiple times, the concept of using the law of attraction to find her soul mate was vague.
She wanted to use the law of attraction to attract an ideal mate. She was ready!
But, what happened to the last relationship? Did she learn anything from it?
The last relationship ended when her boyfriend of four years took her to Maui to celebrate her birthday. She thought he’d proposed to her, but instead, he confessed that his heart wasn’t big enough for two women.
What? There was another woman? And for as long as five months? He was telling her on a birthday trip?
He asked her to give him some time to sort out his feelings.
In a rage, she flew home on the next flight.
This was over a year ago, and she was still on and on describing every detail of how he approached her with the news, and how she left the island that day.
To help her pull closer to her vision, I asked her, “Which feeling is stronger in your heart now, resenting the past relationship, or wanting a new love?”
Without hesitation, she replied, “I’m ready for a good man!”
Since Sara was eager to learn about the law of attraction, I redirected her attention and explained in simple terms:
“You see nothing is still; everything vibrates in this Universe. We’re constantly moving and vibrating at a frequency. Everything has its unique frequency.
Unless we’re a match to its frequency, the thing we desire will not appear in our vicinity.
It’s as simple as radio stations. If you’re tuned into AM 98.1, you can’t receive what’s played on FM 101.3. They are two different frequencies vibrating at different levels.
The past boyfriend you want to forget has a frequency. The new love you desire also has a frequency.
The law of attraction is simple. Where you focus your attention will lead to the experience.
Each time you talked about the past boyfriend being secretive and disloyal, guess what? He appeared more secretive and disloyal to you.
If you want a kind and trustworthy guy, you need to shift your attention and start thinking about how a kind and trustworthy guy will carry himself and make you feel.
At this moment, you have a choice. You can either focus on your past boyfriend or your future soul mate. If you give more attention to the past, the future will repel you.”
I suggested an effective exercise.
I asked Sara to pull out a blank sheet of paper.
Drew a line in the middle of the paper. On the left side of the paper, wrote down the “dislikes” of the despicable boyfriend she tried to leave behind. On the right side, wrote down the desired qualities of her dream man.
As I expected, Sara’s list of her “dislikes” about her last boyfriend was twice as long as the list of desired qualities of her dream man.
I ask her, “ How can you move forward when your attention is twice stronger from the past?”
Sara decided to commit to a 90-day love search with me when I was still working as a nurse case manager in the field.
As a nurse, I was obsessed with healing results for patients. With Sara, I called on Holy Spirit to help her achieve her goal.
I broke down the plan into a 30-30-30 system.
For the first 30 days, Sara focused on clarity.
Sara had a burning desire for a new man. However, she was still nebulous about his qualities and values. She would vacillate between her disappointment from the last relationship and the new relationship she desired.
I provided a few options to help Sara develop a clear vision of her ideal mate.
Sara chose to journal gratitude every morning before work. During the 30 days of journaling and expressing gratitude, she got clearer about what she wanted in an ideal man.
She was thankful to her last boyfriend because he represented what she didn’t want, which led her to get clearer about what she wanted.
She was also surprised that she mostly wanted a man with a kind heart.
She added one more desire; maybe he would go on horseback rides with her.
Sara loves horses and had been wanting to take some horseback riding lessons.
By the end of 30 days, Sara wrote out a clear vision of her dream man, his values, qualities, temperament, and common interests with her. She even wrote about his shirt, a crisp blue shirt.
Once Sara was clear with her vision, we were now moving to the next 30 days.
The second 30-day period required Sara’s conscious effort.
By now, Sara understood how the Law of Attraction worked. If she wanted a dream man, she needed to stop blaming the old boyfriend. Let him go.
Telling the old story would only stir up the resentful feelings and hinder her from moving forward toward her ideal man.
She also learned to be kind to herself. Instead of regretting wasting four years with the wrong man, she told herself daily that the new man was on his way to meet her.
During this time, I also brought up a poem by William Blake to remind her to stay in her higher frequency. Blake wrote:
“I told her my love, I love her my love.
I told her all my heart.
One day, A traveler came, silently.
Invisibly, he took her with a sign…”
It didn’t matter how hard Blake tried, he wasn’t the match for the lady he desired. The traveler effortlessly earned her love because he was in the vicinity of her frequency, as a perfect match.
Did I mention the second 30 days required serious work?
Sara committed to reading the vision of her ideal man twice every day, once in the morning upon awake and the other at night before rest.
Every time she read her vision, she felt hopeful and happy. Little did she know that she was programing herself to get closer to her new love.
Now after reading her vision twice daily for more than 60 days, Sara’s new man became more and more real to her.
The miracle came in the next 30 days, unexpectedly.
As Sara was more immersed in her new story, she vibrated at a new frequency. The miracle happened!
One day on her way to check out a horseback riding ranch, one of her tires blew up. While waiting for road service, a truck was pulled behind her car. Out walked a young man, in a crisp light blue cotton shirt.
He asked Sara if she had a spare tire in the trunk. Once he found it, he quickly brought his tools from his truck and changed Sara’s tire.
He was kind and generous. Sara thought.
The road service truck arrived shortly after the young man changed her tire. The driver jokingly thanked him for stealing his job, and the three of them were engaged in a light-hearted conversation on the side of a winding road.
By now you may have guessed it.
Sara and the young man exchanged their phone numbers. The best part? This young man taught horseback riding on weekends at the nearby ranch.
It took Sara 74 days to meet her dream man. He showed up, by the law of attraction, after she prepared herself to be a match for him.
Whatever happened to Sara, it could happen to you too. It is a law if you’re ready.
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