Hello, dear one!
Have you wondered why some people always get “stuck” with their health, career, or relationship goals even when they’re clear with the desired outcomes?
Well, if you try to drive a car, put one foot on the gas pedal and the other on the break, how far can you go?
The challenge is that we humans are often in a dichotomy of wanting it and holding it back.
Taking health, for example, the underlying benefits of illness could be the real cause of sickness.
Author and metaphysics teacher Alan H Cohen gave a good example of “stuck” illness:
If someone is praying for health but staying sick, the subconscious mind is working on its agendas of being sick, not getting well.
But why?
Here are the possible underlying causes of an illness:
If you’re working on a job that no longer inspires you but drags you, it is a good excuse to escape from work, by being sick! Think about it, it’s okay to be home, maybe even a treat to stay at home and claim sick.
What about the attention, sympathy, and even favors you normally don’t get and only receive when you’re sick? Yikes, that’s sickness gained with negative psychology. Unfortunately, this works for many people.
Plus, you get a monetary reward. Through work-allowed sick days, insurance settlements, and government assistance, you’re compensated for illness and encouraged to take some sick days for yourself. So, why work so hard when you can relax with the paid free time?
On one hand, you put your foot on the gas pedal with health, but on the other hand, you unconsciously put the other food on the break with sickness.
Unless you’re consciously aware of your conflict, you may get pulled into favoring illness. When this happens, your subconscious mind will help you get exactly what you wish for: Getting sick and staying sick.
That is why Jesus taught us that no one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other (Matthew 6:24).
When you split your energy, the one that wins the battle is always the real master. And in this case, it is your illness, not your health.
This concept easily explains why a woman sincerely wants to meet a good man, but she has not found any luck, year after year.
Maybe subconsciously she regards marriage as a life jail and is not aware of it. She’s afraid of trading her freedom for partnership.
Maybe she secretly believes that all the good men are taken, and there aren’t good men left for her.
Maybe she is fearful of losing something she truly values, like girlfriend hand-out times.
These hidden subconscious issues are the break in her love car that gets her “stuck” in her singleness. But life should not be a struggle, and meeting her ideal mate should be a cruise if she has the GRIT to take her foot off that break.
The late author and lecturer Stuart Wilde regarded concentration of energy as the key factor for any success, because the power lies in where you focus, “When you’re centered and concentrated on what you’re doing, you not only derive more from your actions, but all your power, inner and outer, is being used to empower your actions.”
Now, you know the secret behind the “stuck syndrome,” when you’re serving two masters.
So the next time you’re feeling a sense of being stuck, check your gas pedal and the break in the car of your mind.
What will you choose next to get back into your flow?
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